With all of the other interesting bits about them here and there, I find myself entertained this week. James and I are playing a bit of MTG and Rickey and I are talking a lot more often. Sanquan came by and I talked to him a bit before finally drifting off to bed.
Last night and the night before, in a more playful mood, I decided to tickle AJ. The reaction was hilarious. Some time later, he explained that it was a nearly entirely unappreciated action and that he was borderline considering never returning to my home again for that reason. I spent the remainder of my day commenting on me being the supreme evil of the universe.
Now does it bother me that people don't like being tickled? Not at all. People have their things that bother them. What does bother me is:
- extreme reaction 24 hours later
If that is really a reason for you not to return somewhere, then I don't know what to think about that other than being slightly off-put. As I think about this, I think about what I would have lost if he decides never to speak to me again or whatnot. Honestly, not a thing. Not a single thing. After that interaction, I decided to wander upstairs and aggro tweet a bit because a full-blown, "...if that's how you feel, then get out of my house..." would have been inappropriate. Aside from that, if it were something so disliked, this should have been brought up 24 hours previous the first time it happened.
Mind you, I have my wily sides and I occasionally do things that are minorly irritating and if someone doesn't like that particular thing, I don't mind being told "don't do that" in a firm way. What I do not like is going from being told firmly, "I don't appreciate that" to, "I'm not coming back here anymore because..."
There's nothing I dislike more than people trying to hold friendship/romance/connections hostage when trying to encourage or discourage behavior; if you don't want me to do something, then let me know clearly and I won't do it and that's fine, but the whole "If you ____ then I will/won't like/hang out with you" thing? One of the quickest ways to piss me off.
I suppose I'll just leave AJ be and hang out with his friends instead. We'll take a long walk, share jokes and come back from wherever smiling and I'll leave the other one to figure out what's going on because I'll not be explaining anything.
Side note: not swearing is kinda hard when you've been doing so for three years.
Ya know, if u don't like folks not promptly explaining themselves, why would you not explain yourself when it can help prevent similar things from happening in the future?
ReplyDeleteI took the simpler approach. Since it was clear what was wrong, not doing so would be enough, would it not?
ReplyDeleteI'll choose to consider that a thoughtful comment and not an unnecessarily sarcastic one.